My Story: From Rock Bottom to Rebuilding a Life I Love

Growing up, I was incredibly shy and quiet—so much so that I hated myself for it. I always felt like something was wrong with me because I struggled to connect with people.

When my parents split during my school years, I had no idea how to handle my emotions. I blamed myself for their separation, carrying that guilt like a weight on my shoulders.

Trying to fit in, I took a different path—getting into trouble, smoking, drinking, and even using drugs—all because I thought I had to be that person to be liked. But deep down, I was still that lost, quiet kid who didn’t know where he belonged.

At 18, a heated argument led to me getting kicked out of my home. It shattered me. With no real bond with my dad, I ended up living with him, but inside, I was falling apart.

 

A Downward Spiral

Depression hit hard. Panic attacks kept me up at night, and I turned to drinking just to numb the pain. I dreaded going to bed because I knew what was coming—so I drank more, hoping for an escape.

Then, I moved to Spain. What should have been a fresh start turned into another nightmare—I spent over a year in an abusive relationship. I had no connection with my family, no real friends, and my life revolved around drinking, drugs, and junk food.

The mental abuse turned physical, and I hit my lowest point. I found myself in the bathroom, blade in hand, ready to end it all. I dragged the blade across my wrist, but then—I thought of my brother and sister. I couldn’t do this to them.

A few weeks later, I attempted again—this time trying to hang myself. A friend stopped me. Looking back, I realize I was just desperately crying out for help.

 

The Turning Point

One day, my boss asked if I wanted to go to the gym with him. That single moment changed everything.

Training became my outlet—a way to release anger, frustration, and pain. It gave me hope when I had none. I had no clue what I was doing, but I knew I needed to keep going.

Eventually, I moved back home. I reconnected with my mom and stepdad, and we rebuilt our relationship from the ground up.

 

From Surviving to Thriving

A few years later, I traveled the world, then moved to Australia, where I built a career in fitness and coaching. I worked with hundreds of people, helping them become stronger—physically, mentally, and emotionally.

I also dived deep into personal development, and the combination of fitness and mindset work transformed my life completely.

But life kept testing me. My marriage fell apart, and before I knew it, I was back in Cork, with absolutely nothing.

But this time, I was different. I had the mindset, the resilience, and the belief in myself to keep moving forward.

 

Where I Am Today

I look back at my journey with gratitude because it made me who I am today.

✔️ I now have an amazing relationship with my family.
✔️ I’m in the best mindset I’ve ever been in.
✔️ I have a beautiful baby girl, an amazing stepson, and an incredible partner who I will soon call my wife.
✔️ And most importantly, I wake up every day with purpose, passion, and a mission to help others change their lives.

 

Your Next Step

Life will always throw challenges at you, but how you respond to them determines where you go next.

If you're feeling stuck, lost, or unsure of how to move forward—know this: You have the power to rewrite your own story just like I did.

👉 Make the decision today to take action. I’m here to guide you every step of the way.